Maid of honor checklist template
A Maid of Honor duties checklist organized by timeframe, so you always know what's next instead of guessing. Built for the person who just said yes and wants a clear picture of the whole role, not just the wedding day.
Blank checklist by timeframe
Copy this into your own notes app, or print it and check items off by hand as you go.
| Timeframe | Task |
|---|---|
| As soon as you say yes | Talk with the bride about her expectations for your role |
| Get key dates on your own calendar | |
| 4–6 months out | Start bachelorette party planning |
| Begin speech notes | |
| Coordinate bridesmaid dress shopping | |
| 6–8 weeks out | Lock the bridal shower date |
| Finalize bachelorette details | |
| 4–6 weeks out | Host or co-host the bachelorette party |
| Host or co-host the bridal shower | |
| 2–3 weeks out | Confirm day-of logistics and your responsibilities |
| Help coordinate final dress fitting | |
| Week of | Finalize your toast |
| Confirm getting-ready timeline with the bride | |
| Wedding day | Help the bride get dressed and stay on schedule |
| Hold the bouquet during the ceremony | |
| Bustle the dress | |
| Give your toast |
A filled-in sample checklist
Sample — illustrative data for a fictional wedding, not a real Maid of Honor's actual list.
| Timeframe | Task | Done |
|---|---|---|
| As soon as you say yes | Talked with the bride about her expectations for your role | Done |
| Added key dates to my calendar | Done | |
| 4–6 months out | Started bachelorette party planning (Nashville, 8 people) | Done |
| Began speech notes | Done | |
| Coordinated bridesmaid dress shopping | Not yet | |
| 6–8 weeks out | Locked the bridal shower date (June 14th) | Not yet |
| Finalized bachelorette details | Not yet | |
| Wedding day | Help the bride get dressed and stay on schedule | Not yet |
| Hold the bouquet during the ceremony | Not yet | |
| Bustle the dress | Not yet | |
| Give my toast | Not yet |
Making the checklist your own
- Have an early, honest conversation with the bride about what she actually wants from you - not what tradition assumes.
- Delete anything on this list that doesn't apply to your specific wedding, and add anything specific to hers.
- Anchor each task to a timeframe rather than a fixed date, so the list still makes sense if the engagement runs long or short.
- Revisit the list every few weeks and move completed items - momentum matters more than a perfect first draft.
- Share the wedding-day section with the bride's day-of coordinator or planner so your responsibilities are visible to whoever's running the schedule.
For a deeper walkthrough of each responsibility and how to handle the trickier parts of the role, see the complete Maid of Honor checklist guide.
Let Nozari do this for you, automatically
Nozari's task list lets you assign each item on this checklist to yourself or another bridesmaid, with due dates and reminders - and keeps bachelorette planning private to the bride's side until you're ready to reveal it.